It’s been a while…

… a really long while. And I have missed blogger. And I have been given some stick for being away for long. I guess this Mommy has been busy and having some form of blogger block 🙂 But I am back, did you miss me?

Well Rhys has had loads happening in his life. He is getting independent minded at a fast rate and learning loads. He can now really read sentences. Even write his long full name and proudly says all 5 parts of his name. He has been coming home with little gifts like sweets for beng the best at school for one thing or the other. Like in reading. When I had a few days off from work a couple of weeks ago, I went to his school to speak to the teachers and basically check on him. His headmistress was singing his praises which causes every parent to swell with pride. And while I was there, my baby boy managed to put a smile on my face, actually a grin. Once he realised that I was in the headmistress’ office, he started to bring his friends to meet me. I was at first puzzled by the increasing number of children coming out of the blue to say hello to me and then I heard him outside the office telling one child to ‘go and inside and say hello to my mother.’ Basically he was showing me off. Rhys is proud of his Momma. Yes, even we like to know that we are accepted by our children.

These days the sport that I am feeling is Bowling. Despite it having been introduced in Uganda a couple years back, I hadn’t tried it out. A couple of moths ago, we were having a send off party for a workmate and chose to have it at Alleygators. We were made to team up and play and it was so much fun. So now I try to go bowling at least once a month. My girlfriends have been dragged into this ofcourse and so will Rhys soon. Would anyone like to challenge me?

Y’all have a fabulous week.


The Joy of Children

This is dedicated to Chanel, the newest Mama on the block.

My baby boy can be so good for my well being for he has a way of making my heart swell with joy and so much love with smallest of things.

On Monday evening, when I got home after a hard day’s work, I was relaxing on the sofa with Rhys watching some television. All of sudden he breaks out in song while pointing at me,

“You are my sunshine, my only sunshine
You make me happy when skies are grey
You’ll never know dear, how much I love you
Please don’t take my sunshine away”

I felt so special.

And then there are instances when I am in the room getting ready to go out while he is tinkering around with stuff or playing on the bed when out of the blue he says,

“Mommy you are very beautiful.”

Or, he is on the floor looking for something when he ends up close to my feet and says,

“Mommy you have nice toes.”

One time my sister heard him say that and tried to solicit a compliment from him by asking, “what about mine?”. He answered with a resounding, NO. My baby boy can be so good for my ego.

In other news:

Today is a wonderful day. I got to the office about 25 minutes late and when I explained to my boss the problem which was very nasty traffic jam (the truth), she says sorry! I almost fainted in surprise, for this is from someone who can scream her lungs at someone for walking in at 8.02am in the morning and yet there were supposed to be in by 8.00am. God has worked miracles in this office!

His view…



“Mommy?!” Still no response.

She isn’t even turning to look at me. Mommy can seriously concentrate when she is watching tv like Kaka when she is reading the newspaper. What should I now do? Ah, I know what to do.

Mwaa (that is Rhys giving me a kiss and my total attention focuses on him)

Perfect, now I can talk to her since I now have her full attention.

“Mommy, …..”

Oba who is he learning this stuff from. It actually amazed me and I was… moved by it.

Rhys, a genius

My son can write his name. I said, MY SON CAN WRITE HIS NAME! On his own, not tracing dots or something like. As you can clearly tell, I am so excited about this.

Most of you are probably wondering why it is such a big deal since his name is only 4 letters long but the name I am talking about is his other Christian name which is eight letters long. I am so proud of him. At what age are most children able to do that? Well I am officially declaring that Rhys is a genius. Don’t hate Tandra.

Celebration of Love

For all those who have good loving partners put your hands up… actually stand up, acknowledge them, appreciate them and thank our Heavenly Father for them. He/She is not in any way to be taken for granted.

He sent me one rose on Monday and a hand written letter asking me to his valentine. I love hand written letters and beautiful words. He did not take it for granted that even if we have been together for all this time it would be automatic. Then yesterday he came to my office with some more roses and chocolate just because it was a Tuesday. Yeah, I know Tandra, he makes them look bad.

Now while I was on my home in the evening, on seeing the roses a guy who sat next to me in the taxi and I had had one of the weirdest conversations in my life. Weird not because of the content of the conversation but because he was a stranger, thus someone who I had obviously never met and yet we talked like we were old friends.

The thing that he said which struck me the most was,

“You are lucky to have someone.”

He is right but to me it is more that I am blessed rather than luck. He is so so so much and then some more.












God fearing

A good listener



Delicious (you need to kiss him to understand that 😉 )

And this is just a tip of the iceberg to describe who he is…

My warrior, my baby and I am proud to call him my wonderful man.

437 always…

Dear Daddy

Get so caught up everyday
Tryna keep it all together
While the time it slips away
You see I know nothing last forever

Imagine there was no tomorrow
Imagine that I couldn’t see your face
There’d be no limit to my sorrow
So all I can say

I wanna tell you something


Give you something
Show you in so many ways
‘Cause it would all mean nothing

If I don’t say something

Before it all goes away


Don’t wanna wait to bring you flowers

Waste another hour let alone another day
I’m gonna tell you something

Show you something

Won’t wait till it’s too late

I can’t wait, I can’t wait


I won’t wait

I don’t wanna wait

Just a simple conversation
Just a moment is all it takes
I wanna be there just to listen
And I don’t wanna hesitate

Imagine there was no tomorrow
Imagine that I couldn’t see your face
There would be no limit to my sorrow
‘Cause there’s nothing that could fill that space


Ohh did I put it off for too long
I didn’t say all that I had to say
I wanna take my time to right the wrong

Before we get to that place


Just lean on my shoulder,
It’s not over till it’s over
Don’t worry about it cause
I’m gonna make sure our bond gets stronger
I don’t wanna wait until the storm

When something’s wrong and now you are gone

And I can’t find you


Tell You Something, Alicia Keys

Dear Daddy,

This is the 14th Christmas that we have celebrated without you. I miss you so much… there is so much that has happened that you have missed out on… meeting him and harangueing him just like fathers are supposed to with every guy who is interested in his girl, I think you would have liked him… watching Rhys grow up, from being a small incling of a baby mving to the various stages; the sitting bit then crawling and then the big one of making those tentative steps to the all out running. It is amazing how tall he is becoming … he is a handsome boy who looks so much like you. He is also intelligent, he started school and his teachers are impressed with his fast progress. You would have loved Rhys and bonded with him so hard. He has missed out on knowing his Shwenkuru… I pray that you will meet in heaven and make up for all the lost time one good day…

Oooh, then the U.S.A. have a black president, I know you would have been impressed by that.

There are so many things in my life that I realized that I actually take for granted and I am sorry for so many things that I did that didn’t please you… so many times that I didn’t say thank you… so many times that I was not grateful that you were in my life as a caring loving father… I do not want to make those same mistakes with the people who I have in my life who are special… I will say I love you to them everyday… to say thank you for the smallest of things that they do… give them a big hug when they are hurting despite of everything and anything… to apprecaite them in whichever way I can…

I still love you… I still miss you…



Okay, get your head straight. I am not going to write about seduction or give tips to people like Cheri or Carlo or even Tandra who probably need them.

My interest is the songs. Seduction Songs… the kind that lead to love making or to make love to.

I was listening to John Mayer’s ‘Your Body Is A Wonderland’ recently and it made me think of what songs would be on my ideal seduction playlist. A friend really likes Maxwell’s music and at one point he said that his music is perfect to make love to… Some of his songs definitely could work with the seduction. Ideally the choice of these songs would be based on the lyrics, the ‘magic’ content of the song, what you like, what your partner would be interested in… that kind of thing.

This is a tidbit of what would be on my playlist:

  • Practice What You Preach, BARRY WHITE
  • Seven Seas, BABYFACE
  • Last Night, AZ YET
  • Lost Without You, ROBIN THICKE
  • T-shirt, DESTINY’S CHILD
  • I’ll Make Love To You, BOYZ II MEN
  • The Reason, HOOBASTANK
  • Like You’ll Never See Me Again, ALICIA KEYS

What songs would work some of the magic for you?

Please note; it would be a good idea not to have the music of an artist who your partner fancies or he/she might just imagine her/him during the seduction.

I still want to…

I still want to…


Want to be there when it all goes bad

Want to be held by him

Want to smell of him because of his hugs

Want to feel the fluttering in my stomach because of his presence


I still want to…


Want to make his heart flutter

Want to be who he longs to be with

Want to be who he shares his secrets with

Want to be able to make things better for him


I still want to…


Want to hold his hand as a symbol of togetherness… eternity

Want to feel the shiver of delight as he kisses my neck

Want to have his voice as the last thing to hear before I sleep

Want to be his girl

A High’s High… Thankful

I am riding on a serious high. Real pure bliss… like on a fluffy white cloud… one of those highs when you are crazy enough to shout ‘next round of all drinks on me’ in a bar. Boundless happiness… What is causing all this?

Well, a friend who has been having a couple of complications with her pregnancy gave birth naturally to a healthy 3.6kg baby boy on the 7th of the 7th month of 2008. Clearly going to be a very blessed boy – Stephan.

I watched a movie that I really really really liked, more than I thought I would, Hancock. Peter Berg did a very good job, don’t care what none of you say about it. Had a good time watching it with him at the cinema.

We love each other and I have gotten to the point where I don’t give a hoot about kissing him on Kampala Road. For me that is really a big deal. He accepts me for who I am, even my craziness that hits at times… he hadn’t even noticed that I had put on weight till I mentioned it. No Tandra, he was not just humouring me. Thank you for being you baby.

Rhys is wonderful and in good health, intelligent, handsome, blessed, cheeky at times, playful, energetic, loving… the apple of my eye. He puts a smile on my face after a hectic day all the time.

A good friend is coming back home from outside countries this week and that gives me some more joy. Its been long since I last ‘looked upon’ your face…

God is good. Jesus loves yoy and He is always in control.

I am loving and enjoying my everyday life.

Thank you Jesus.

Baby Boy Update…

This is the new stuff concerning Rhys:

His new word is What! You ask him something and he says, What, ask again and he will repeat it. Before that, like a week ago, he was loving Okay! Though he still uses it, its not as much as before. It is just so cute.

The music he is loving at the moment:

  • 4 Minutes, Justin Timberlake & Madonna
  • Tattoo, Jordin Sparks
  • Kiss Kiss, Chris Brown ft. T-Pain. He has loved this one for a while, the video is just his thing. He even tries out the moves.
  • Sensual Seduction, Snoop Dogg (seriously do not understand why)
  • And the new Shaggy song, can’t remember the name
  • No One, Alicia Keys; thought this is extremely sweet considering that I think of him when I listen to it. It’s our special song. He can actually sing the chorus…

This reminds me, my son flattered me! We were watching the Teenage Love Affair video when Rhys kept on pointing at the screen and saying, ‘Mommy’ whenever Alicia Keys would come on. I was flabbergasted (Tandra, its okay for you to check the dictionary). Alicia Keys is the epitome of beautiful and is so very hot! I was mob mob mob flattered. Banange my boy thinks I look like her, he is so good for my ego.

I really like Alicia Keys. She has wonderful music, have loved all 3 of her albums and besides being a celebrity, still has integrity. She doesn’t feel the need to show off her body or should I say get naked to attract fans to watch her video, listen to her music and thus buy her albums. She is one of the few young hot artists who does that. She is an all rounder, besides her superb voice, she has talent (playing the piano), writing music, is beautiful, hardworking and still remains a really lovely woman. She is one of the few artists who I would actually want to go for a show if she had one in Uganda, even if it was like at Nakivubo! She did come here but not perform, for charity related stuff.

Have so diverted from the main point, Rhys…

He loves kisses; giving them and receiving them. And for him it is not just one on the cheek. He wants to give and get kisses all together on both cheeks, the forehead and then on the top of the head. And when giving them, he likes to make the ‘mwah’ sound. Now aiint that just so sweet?

Omwana wangye nimurungi!