The Unexpected….

Two of my friends are getting close to heading down the aisle in a few months and I am so excited for the two of them. I was looking back on how they got together and thought that it was wonderful how something unexpectedly good can come of something so basic.
They met at work. She is a single mother of two. He is a player, younger than her by a couple of years. It started out as a ‘friends with benefits’ arrangement and then six months into the relationship, they realize that there is much more to things. Feelings are involved… Jealousy… Missing each other when away… So why not make this permanent and now they are living together. Two years later and the kuhingira will be in December, wedding in 2013.
Now what inspired all this was a conversation I had with them today morning. We were discussing with madam how her son (8 years old) and daughter (5 years old) need to have an outing with my one and only Rhys (soon to be 7 years old). And then mister says, ‘Are you trying to hook up my daughter with your son?!’ with all the protectiveness of a biological father. Now, for many, that will seem normal. But the thing is this, she is not his biological daughter, but he already considers her to be ‘his’ daughter with no questioned asked. And for him it seemed so natural like she has been his since birth. I wanted to hug him so hard but all I did was grin for you need to know how to handle Bakiga men at certain points X.
To all the men and women who are being real wonderful parents to their step children or adopted children, you are to be celebrated world over. May God continuously and richly bless you for what you do is humbling. 

He made me laugh…

Rhys made a joke this past Wednesday night and I was impressed. He had a collision with the neighbour’s door that evening, which unfortunately is metallic and this left a bump on his head. Later on at night when I was putting him to bed, he says

“Mommy, I need to cover my head for if ants find this bump on my head they might think it is an ant hill!”

It really made my week. My young man had ‘cracked’ his first joke.

Enjoy the long weekend.


I’ve been going through a number of things, the kind of things that sometimes leave one feeling all alone in a very large crowded world. Pastor Joel Osteen’s words of encouragement always lift me up and give me hope that even if I may be feeling that way, the Good Lord still cares and is still in my corner despite everything. Thought I would share this… for anyone who may also need the encouragement…

“No one can know a person’s thoughts except that person’s own spirit, and no one can know God’s thoughts except God’s own Spirit”
(Ephesians 3:20, NIV)

When was the last time you imagined God doing something supernatural in your life? Is there a relationship that needs restoration? Is there a business you’ve wanted to start, but you are holding back? If there were no limitations on your life, if anything were possible, what would you be willing to imagine?

Friend, the only limits on your life are the limits you have in your mind, and God wants to do exceedingly more than you can even imagine today! He wants to overwhelm you with His goodness and amaze you with His faithfulness. But in order for Him to exceed what you’ve imagined, you have to at least be imagining something! Why don’t you take a step of faith today and let your imagination come to life? Begin to see in your mind all the possibilities for your future. Meditate on the amazing things God has done throughout history. Let that seed of faith take root in your heart. Hold on to His promises because He is faithful. He is able to exceed your expectations and go beyond what you can imagine today!


I haven’t spoken to, hugged, played with, disagreed with, made noise with, tickled… all the mom-son lovey dovey stuff with my boy for 36 hours!

I last had any interaction with him on Thurday evening at 11pm. I left him enjoying sleep on Friday morning and got back home at 3am on Saturday morning, leaving him at 8am once again enjoying sleep. Imagine!

I miss my baby… I have to get home early today.

In other news, my delicious black evening bag was stolen at the Sheraton last night. Imagine! We were at a friend’s wedding and some person snatched it off the table while we were boogying away. Two phones stolen in just over 1 year! The thing that hurt was that that bag was a gift from a close friend and I treasured it.

But I guess bibawo…

Y’all have a fabulous week and new month which will usher Foxylamb into married life.

Look Beneath the Surface

“Look beneath the surface so you can judge correctly” (John 7:24).

We don’t realize how many times we look at someone, and in a split second, we decide if we’re going to like them or not. The scripture says that man looks at the outward appearance of others while God looks at the heart. Now, you might be thinking, “Of course, God looks at the heart, He’s God. How am I supposed to look at another person’s heart?”

You may not exactly know a person’s heart, but as Jesus said in this verse, you can look beneath the surface. You can take time to get to know someone who might look or act differently than you. Don’t just write them off because they don’t measure up to your standards. You never know how God will use the relationships in our lives.

Jesus said whatever you’ve done to the least of these, you’ve done to me. In other words, when we make quick judgments about people, it’s as if we are making quick judgments about God. Don’t let that be you. Look beneath the surface. Look for the good in others and find some common ground. Before you know it, you’ll be living to bless others the way Jesus commanded.

Inspiration from Pastor Joel Osteen


Watched Rhys sleep today morning, his sweet face right next to mine… reminded me of our first night together. He was born at 8.15pm… there was a clock in the delivery room so I was able to tell. I spent that whole night awake just looking at him in wonder, the wonder that the Lord can bless one so much with such a precious bundle who He has put forever in your care…

It is trully humbling to be entrusted by God with an innocent child to care for, guide, nurture, look out for, make sure he follows the right path in life.

My friends and colleagues say that whenever I speak about him, my eyes shine and my whole demeanor kind of lights up… maybe its normal for all mothers. Or is it the 1st borne syndrome?

Forgiving… some more sound advice

Got this from one of my favourite Pastors about forgiving and thought I should share it…

When we forgive, we seek love and the Bible says that God is Love. If we don’t forgive, we are turning in the opposite direction – away from God.

Choosing forgiveness doesn’t excuse the other person’s behaviour. It simply releases the debt they owe you so that God can release the debt you owe Him.

Isn’t that so true? Now lets go out into the world and forgive all for whatever whenever!


I am a walking sleep deprived tired zombi! Yesterday was really hectic. I had an office meeting at 7am and that means getting up earlier than usual and having to get ready while tip toeing around the room so as not to make any sounds that would cause Rhys to wake up. The thing is once he wakes up, my getting ready time doubles. Instead of 20 minutes, it becomes 40 minutes because we have to have a morning chat and a bit of playing, then he has to be hidden before I leave because a crying session can erupt when I am leaving… basically a lot of drama. Unfortunately, he did wake up yesterday morning and yet I needed to run out to make in time for that meeting. Luckily the delay was not so bad and was in time.

What made the day hectic, besides being the usual high work load, is that we had an evening work dinner/ gala. When we were told about this dinner, a workmate actually did say it was going to be unfunny as it was going to be a long day with work related stuff and she was right. Luckily, she has today off while some of us have work. Well the gala ended late so I get home late and low and behold, my young man is so awake. By 2am we are finally in bed ad he is still wanting to play meanwhile I am dying of sleep. Children. Well we had loads of fun with food, dancing, awards and Fat Boy.

Now you hear about the “terrible twos” but don’t think it is as bad as people say. Rhys isn’t yet 2 (he’s 23 months, i love confusing the mathematically challenged with this months business) but he is already displaying the signs. He loves the teletubbies show, introduced to him by his aunt. She brought home a dvd of it for him and now everytime he sees the dvd player, he is like oh oh, something the teletubbies say a lot. I couldn’t stand that show but now I am a pro courtesy of my son. I can tell you all the colours, names, who follows who, even have had the debate that the green one is actually black…. tis so sad. We have watched that dvd so much that we can actually sing along. Now if he asks for it and you are busy watching something intense like Lost, a serious tantrum of falling on the floor and screaming his heart out will follow so you can forget all about your show and watch oh oh. Goodness me.

Cassie look a like?

Yesterday evening, after a hard day’s work, I was chilling with my son on my bed. He grabbed the ipod from me and was busy flipping through the song list (he is already technologically gifted) and ‘Long way to go’ by Cassie came on. So her picture appears and what does he say, “Tis Mommy”, translation that is Mommy. He was just flattering me by seeing her and calling her me. Keep in mind that I am not in the same ‘hotness’ category as her, not even close. Children can be so good for one’s vanity. Or is it that boys start with this flattery that early in life? Now I can go around flauncing that ‘someone’ thinks I look like Cassie.